Friday, December 2, 2011

What is THAT in your hand?

So, of the many interactions I find myself having "in scene" on a regular basis, the phrase "What is THAT (or thhaaatttt) in your hand, sir?" is what I hear most frequently.

Now before I delve in to this topic, let me provide some context real quick.  Spanking is just a general term, which we can all agree means in some capacity that someones butt, or bottom if you prefer, is going to be struck by "something".  In a professional sense, we refer to this "something" as an implement. Outside of a person's hand, an implement is usually a piece of leather or piece of wood in one shape / form or another.  Then again, an implement need not be relegated to simple leather or wood, but let's save that for a later post.

Implements.....  Why do I use them, why do they even exist?  NO, it isn't just for the pleasure of us "tops" (people who spank) or those "bottoms" (people who get spanked).  Implements, in the world of consensual spanking exist for a multitude of reasons which I could not hope to cover completely in this one post.  What I will say given the blog title (scroll up if you have forgotten the purpose of this post) is that used properly, an implement should bring enjoyment and satisfaction both physically and emotionally to the spanking.

Let me now answer the question, what is THAT in my hand...  That which is in my hand could very well be a lovely leather paddle which produces a moderate sting similar to my hand, a small wood paddle if the  bottom warrants a bit more attention, a cane or a hairbrush (more on my hairbrush collection soon).  Really the answer is, any implement which I know will illicit a particular reaction, emotion and outcome from the bottom.  This here is the key, a spanking is a journey which begins far before my hand, or one of these implements makes contact and ends sometime after the last reddening stroke is delivered.

Now to hold myself true to my commitment of honesty and completeness, it is also necessary to add at this point that I use implements at times to simply protect my hand from over-use.  Yes, one can over-spank just as one can over exert any part of one's body.  However, that is not the point of this blog post, and I do promise to cover this more humorous aspect of spanking at a later date as I recollect one or more of the parties I attend.

You see friends, a consensual spanking is much more than just a physical altercation producing pain.  It is a shared moment in time and when done properly, both parties find pleasure and satisfaction.  From the moment I hear the question, to the hug after the spanking has ended, I know that I have complete control of the scene and that the bottom is expecting to be treated safely, sanely, respectfully, maybe even harshly or severely....In a word, consensually.

With that, I will leave you for now.  If you have enjoyed reading this as much as I have enjoyed writing, then we have both entered what is commonly referenced as a "headspace".  This is the topic we will tackle next time.


Mr. Avery

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Blogging. It doesn't happen through osmosis does it?

Just a short note which I hope to look back upon with a smile at some subsequent date in the future.  Shortly I do intend on finishing one of now 3 or is it 4 draft blog posts.  However, I feel it is important to write these few sentences to articulate my level of commitment to this blog, and to act as a kick in the literary pants at what this commitment means to me.

When I decided on my blog title, and wrote my first blog entry, I did so knowing that I was not simply subscribing myself to a simple journaling project, or a quick post with a few words about spanking to make me feel good about myself.

The point of this blog is to communicate what I perceive as consensual spanking, or for that matter, what consensual anything is, focused of course on adult / kink topics.  My goal is to write engaging and thoughtful posts which are enjoyable to read, informative at times, but above all, sincere...truthful...and honest.

So, where do we go from here you hopefully are asking right about now.  Well, that question I believe has 3 connected answers.

1.  Rayne will be sternly dealt with tonight for not fully preparing me for this engagement.
2.  I will earnestly focus on a single entry to get out later tonight.
3.  I will learn from this experience, the encouraging comments I have already received and my only growing desire to succeed.


Mr. Avery

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Expectations & A Welcome

Now there is a word to kick off a conversation.

Expectations, with this one word, I have given us the freedom to explore just about anything quite frankly. Why are you reading this blog for instance, what is your expectation?  As a top what are my expectations?  What do I expect of a bottom in general?   What about a bottom during a scene with me?  How about general behavior at a party?  I could go on, but then why create a blog when I could simply write a thesis.

For now, I simply wanted to frame what this blog will be about.  In other words, pretty much anything related to spanking is fair game.

My expectations of you, my audience, is to understand that anything I blog about is honest, sincere and thoughtful.  I do not expect you to agree with my thoughts, in fact, if you always agree with me, then you are not being sincere.  We are unique creatures, who have either a shared interest in spanking, or a different perspective and you just happened upon my blog for any number of reasons.  Either way, I welcome you, and am appreciative of the time you spend here with me and my thoughts.

If inclined, do leave a comment and engage in conversation.  Be assured that as long as you are respectful, I will treat you the same.

For now, welcome to my blog,  may we all learn and grow from the journey.

Mr. Arthur L. Avery